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However, we should not forget
that life is interdependent. It is not easy to exist alone and
once a relationship is established, those involved
unfortunately start taking each other for granted. It is
something insulting and disrespectful. Knowing each other is
rather impossible. That is why "no man understands his
woman, no woman understands her man and that is the beauty of
their being together".
Anyway, the
most compassionate relationship in the world is the
relationship between a mother and her child. A woman becomes a
mother. The very feeling of being a mother changes her
existence altogether. It has the qualitative impact on her
life. So it is not simply the birth of a child but the mother
is also born.
It is rightly
said "Love has the same relationship to the soul as
breathing to the body." It needs two things — freedom
and trust. It is the art of being with others. Contrary to the
general belief, Osho believes "love never dies through
separation, in fact it dies through too much
togetherness". In other words, "Love lives in
waiting but dies in meeting." At the same time, sex has
never satisfied anybody; it creates more dissatisfaction. On
the other hand, marriage is to make relationship solid. But
love dies the moment one tries to make it solid. That is why
it is said, "The life of love is very insecure but
tremendously beautiful."
Somehow
nothing hurts more than a feeling of loneliness but it can
never be a blissful experience if any relationship is
established out of fear of being lonely. Anyway we have yet to
learn the beauty of loneliness. Loneliness is, perhaps, a
sickening of heart. However, alone-ness is a positive feeling.
If we do not have the capability of being alone, relationship
is bound to be disturbed. While staying alone, one can have a
fantasy about happiness. We have come alone. We will go alone
but between these two alone-ness, we create relationship —
love, family, friends, clubs, societies, etc.
Each
relationship is always in a wavering state. It creates fear.
It is always changing. There is always the danger of its being
broken. Thus there can never be any relationship where there
is no problem and the moment the person ignores this fact, it
means there is no relationship anymore. Unfortunately in every
relationship we try to single out the ego of the others but
never think of ego which we possess. Better to change yourself
without bothering about any change in others. Moreover there
is nothing permanent in our life.
Nothing can be better summed
up than the word "completion" by Osho. It signifies
the philosophy and truth about the existence. In his own
words, "Completion is not against continuity. Completion
is each moment but with an opening into future."
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