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Sunday
, March 31, 2002
Books

SIGNS & SIGNATURE
My surrogate mother
Darshan Singh Maini

IN the course of one’s life scores of persons touch the imagination and depart, and scores stay on in memory to sweeten a dream or two. However, there are some who, in an ineffable way, wind themselves into the armature of one’s thought, and keep the conduits of the spirit flowing. And as I sit, an aged, afflicted man, and let some images rise like a school of birds before a gun-shot, I find one figure, in particular, rise on tip-toe to claim attention. And if the person in question reminds me of the natal mother-warmth, my muses are compulsively driven towards thoughts of felicity in my hour of twilight.

Which brings me to the fabulous figure of Charlessi Humez, "Our Lady of the Clinton Street", as I called her. It was in September 1969 when in need of "digs", I happened to call at that Baptist door. My Harvard assignment, then, had a providential start when Humez, after doing quickly a bit of Yankee "arithmetic", admitted me into her charmed precincts. An immediate rapport was established after I had moved into "India House", as the lodgers called that 19th-century wooden structure of fading elegance. It was my first brush with American home life, and the goodness of it all poured into me to make me worship a home beyond home, a place of ease for my restive spirit.

 


It’s thus that under the roof of Mrs Humez I became an admiring privy to the American spirit in action. A daughter of the New England Pilgrim Fathers had made my Harvard stay an expanding metaphor for the energies that have sustained the American civilisation — its tenderness for those exiled from far shores, even when it put them to the wheel to earn their bread as an act of God. Henry James, the novelist whose complex and exciting work had, in the first instance, brought me to Harvard talks of American women as those "frail vessels," which had carried the spirit of America triumphantly in their sails to create a new "Eden". Mrs Humez, it appeared, had the genes of that generation — a true daughter of the soil rich in fruit and flower, in sights and sounds.

Thus, that year at Harvard became an arbour for me to work out my own vision of life, societies and civilisations. And though I watched TV in the evenings by her side (the serial, based on John Galsworthy’s novel, The Forsyte Saga, being a hot favourite then). It was really in the kitchen and in the dining-room where my ‘education’ started. I learnt to admire Mrs Humez’s kitchen ‘ethics’, her sense of economy and of sharing. The music of water from the tap, the ‘dance’ of gestures, the sounds of sizzling steaks, amongst other things, completed this beautiful little tableau.

Let me sketch briefly a typical scene — Mrs Humez, bespectacled, bending over the round mahogany dining-table, and disposing of bills, letters and papers. A lowered light from the ceiling covered her crown of mouse-gray hair, and her thoughtful spirit luminously bright reminded me of a Rembrandt portrait. There was a hint of saintliness about her. I think the eternal American girl in her lived in rich measure. And when sometimes I called her from my cabin in the Houghton Library, her voice on the telephone had the softness of silver bells, as it were. No wonder, she had married a musician, and kept saying prayers to his memory in her heart.

I had had many a surprise in that home, but one that really amused me was the discovery one evening that the patch-work silken quilt I was using to cover my cold bones at night was a piece of historical interest. Imagine, Mrs Humez as a babe in that coverlet! Yes, born in that very house, her mother had woven this quilt for the new-born. I felt quite queer at times, musing over the point...

Mrs Humez, too, had like other mortals, suffered, grieved and mourned, had seen the breaking of her daughters’ marriages, but her suffering had mellowed into a state of mind, and she would not permit herself the luxury of pity. It was something to be lived with; suffering had not to be worn on the sleeve. It strengthened the screws of the spirit, and enable one to face "the assaults of reality", to use a Jamesian phrase.

I must not forget to mention that Mrs Humez who had never gone beyond high school had a passion for the English language, a visible concern for its health and future in that Yankee land. She had, toiling over her books and her dear well-bound Webster, acquired a passion for precision, economy and beauty in language. A solecism or an awkward phrase amounted to a faux pas in her system of values. No Harvard don, no Orwell, agonised more over the moral health of the Queen’s English than this obscure little flame burning fiercely in that small university town, Cambridge.

My last striking memory of Mrs Humez takes me back to an evening when we stood together amidst a riot of new lilacs in Arnold Arboretum near the suburb of Forest Hills. I clicked my camera and we were deeply rewarded as we stood watching the sunset. The sheer ceremoniousness of it all touched me deeply.

When, finally, it was time to leave and return home to India, I touched Mrs Humez’s feet, even as I was to touch my mother’s at Dehra Dun later that month. It was a quiet, beautiful parting, and she asked me to keep in touch with my "American home", as she put it. During the next two years, we exchanged some letters and yearly greetings till one Christmas card remained unacknowledged. I knew instinctively she was no more, and was already gathered with the New England grasses. She had as her son wrote to me, "passed on", cremated, wrapped in an Indian shawl. To quote the last line of David’s letter, "I like to think that she would be welcomed at the gates of Paradise by the One who is clothed in the dress of all peoples."

It may perhaps be appropriate to end this "portrait of a lady" on a Jamesian note. In this story called Altar of the Dead, Henry James memorialises the mystery of the figures who have somehow moved the imagination and gone, leaving behind an unmistakable signature of the spirit. I love to think of Mrs Humez as one such person, and I would always remain lighting candles in the transepts of an adoring heart. Now that I brood endlessly over my own hapless condition, that "Bright Absentee" still lights up the difficult path ahead of me. Well, if we go by the doctrine of Karma who knows we may yet meet in the heavens above, spirits in waiting at the door of the Lord!