Give your heart a break!

Mona

That moment when life just stops! Everything that you have ever loved, enjoyed and appreciated suddenly lost their sheen; as if with one stroke all that you stood for lost their ground. Sometimes you see it coming, sometimes you don’t. Heartbreak sure sets you on a lonely path…

Now who is spared of this pain? Recently, queen bee of Bollywood, Kangana Ranaut, shared her strategy on dealing with it – sugar followed with salt and carbs. Binge on cupcakes, lots of them after that get on to a salt rush. Sugar and salt combined will satiate you and then you can share your final verdict. She even shared her favourite break-up line — Good you ended this, it anyway was a charity project for me!

Ruthlessly chopping that length of hair, drowning self in bottles of beer, partying hard or just picking up the very next one available – there is a standard guide of getting over a break up that we all borrow from in different places and shades of life.

Taylor Swift wrote songs about it to get clarity; Deepika Padukone resorted to crying, seconded by Kate Moss who admitted years and years of crying; for Lauren Conrad a good cry coupled with a pint or two of Ben & Jerry's did the trick. Heartbreak though totally looks like the end of the world, but more often than not, it is not. Here’s few sharing on how they found road back to loving self!

Rubal went through three stages post her break-up. “It wasn’t easy because I was the one at fault. Always aiming to do something grand in career, I didn’t give him enough time and that distanced me not only from him but also my family and friends.” Rubal tried to battle the guilt locking herself up in her room to begin with. When it didn’t work, she gave in to parties. “I didn’t eat in a typical way but drank and drank, beer being my go to drink,” she admits. Until all these had left her weak in body and spirit. The guy got married and one fine day it just occurred to her to take charge of her life and there began a healthy and happy routine.

“I thought enough of being guilty. Now, I had to get out of this guilt trip. So, I took up my fitness routine and dance professionally.” And in no time Rubal was on stage collecting accolades. “It was on stage I got myself back.”

And, if you thought it’s only girls who make hue and cry about the rejection, let us assure you dejection is as difficult to take by the not so fair sex either. Break-ups have come to Amardeep Singh Dhingra’s way more than once and he has also learnt to deal with it along the road. “The first time a girl broke my heart, I ate and ate,” he laughs and yes he too was binging on chocolates (we told you!). He found a better way around the second time when he chose to keep company with his friends. The best way to get out of misery to take the fitness route.

“It’s not that someone stops loving you that you hit the rock bottom but because you stop loving yourself.” If talking to friends helped him, it was some serious cycling that became the game changer for him. Along came meditation and martial arts. “And, trust me, in six months flat I was a new person and need I say I loved the transformed me,” shares this life-coach.

Choreographer Gagan isn’t the one to give up on anything, least of all relationships but then she is also not the one to lose her self-respect over someone. Her funda is simple — make a fresh start. Basically new closet, new hair and a new skill. “Sometimes I head to the mountains to gather strength and peace of mind or visit a monastery. And, yes, she does lots of dancing. “My dancing keeps me strong ever. I feel it’s the best way to connect with oneself.”

Expert speak

Dr Sachin Kaushik, senior consultant psychiatry, Max Hospital, admits that some people while dealing with a break-up go into depression, while many others are led to atypical behaviour. “It’s the opposite of what stressed people generally do – they eat more, sleep more,” he shares. While these stages don’t last long, he warns about people who shut themselves out from the world. “When a person refuses to get out of the shell for longer periods, this could lead something serious, like suicide.” 

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