YOUNG CONCERN
A clash of
interests, aspirations...
By
Surubhi Kalra
DOES a certain hairstyle, dress,
manner, song with a pun or TV programme that your
children love, annoy you? If so, welcome to the
generation gap.
We are all products of
our formative years and our habits reflect this. A
generation gap ensues when we transfer the values of one
age to another set of circumstances. For some its
small; for others its a yawning abyss. But gaps can
be good for fresh perspectives. Some react so much that
they dig them in deep and have a hard time getting out.
Others just step across, taking it all in their stride.
But what really causes generation
gap?
Perhaps it is the rate
of social change that contributes a lot to generation
gap. Within a fast changing social order the time
interval between generations is merely a moment and it
creates a hiatus between one generation and the next.
Inevitably, under such a condition youth is reared in a
milieu different from that of parents. Therefore, the
parents become old-fashioned. Rapid social change adds an
extrinsic variable to the intrinsic differences between
parents and children. As a result, youth rebels and
clashes occur within the closely confined circle of the
family, generating tension.
Generally, age views
events in the light of experience and is not ready to
adapt to the new ideas very easily. The youth look
forward with a sense of adventure; they do not want the
fetters of history. If age requires reason to resolve,
youth wantonly a pretext to go ahead unrestrained.
Says Karan, at 19,
"I am part of what has been labelled the Lost
Generation. I live happily at home, study and dance at
college. I am not lost. Like many of my peers, I wonder
about the future. But for now, I would rather concentrate
on the present. I have seen the Lost Generation drunk,
stoned, depressed and disillusioned, but which generation
has not been? I have also seen the Lost Generation having
fun being happy, responsible, successful and dedicated.
We can and do enjoy our youth. "But age usually lack
faith and condemn and criticise this view of the
youngsters.
Says Karuna, a final
year post-graduate student, "We may sometimes lack
knowledge but we are certainly not devoid of
intelligence. We can see through shams with sharp eyes.
Age often objects too much, consults too long, and
adventures too little. The vices of age have the
stiffness of it too. We must not forget that years do not
make sages; they make only old men. Age is often a
tyrant, which forbids the pleasures of youth."
This is what a liberal
professor of Panjab University says, "We have lost
the ability to live on the edge of difference. The
imaginative sympathy, the openness and flexibility of
mind, cool calmness of judgement is no longer a part of
our collective normal behaviour. To be able to do
ones duty even when one is not watched and to be
able to keep at the job until it is finished is no longer
our national character." We are indeed impatient to
take anothers point of view. The following anecdote
offers the savor of generation gap:
Teacher: "When I
was of your age I could answer any question in
mathematics."
Student: Yes, Sir, but
you had a different teacher."
Indeed, if the ideal
teacher has vanished, so has the student.
Another factor that adds
to generation gap is the birth cycle, decelerating
socialisation and parent-child differences. Since the
parent and child are in different stages of development,
the bearing that the parents then acquired were different
from that which the child is now acquiring. The parent is
supposed to socialise the child and, in order to do so,
he tends to apply the erstwhile standards, which, for the
prevailing time, become unbefitting and inappropriate.
This mistake which the parents commonly make is
irremediable. Therefore to the growth of childrens
personality, their basic orientation is formed by
experiences of their own childhood. As a result, they
cannot renew and refurbish their point of view because
they are products of their own felt experiences.
The precise
physiological differences between parents and the
offspring vary radically from one period to another. When
the child reaches adolescence, he is at a position when
he is acquiring power and the older generation is at a
point where it is relinquishing power.
Age realism versus youth
idealism leads to conflict amongst both. Though both the
youth and the age claim to see the truth, the old are
more conservatively realistic than the young are. The
youth takes utopian ideals rather seriously. The age
conveniently forgets the poetic ideals of a new social
order that they themselves had cherished when young. In
their place, they simply put the working ideals. There is
persistent tendency to gravitate more and more towards
the status quo. The young have ideals, which soar to the
sky. This boundless idealism of youth becomes complicated
when they find it incompatible with the
"working" ideals of age. Therefore, as a
solution, the youth takes decision on his own which does
not conform to the prevailing yardsticks. The generation
gap arises.
When the child grows
into an adolescent his personality expands. His future is
before him. For the parents its behind them. For
them, the future is in the sense that the offspring
represents. This results in a disparity of interest. The
young places his thoughts upon a future which does not
include the parents, whereas the parents place their
hopes upon the young. The old and the young possess
conflicting norms. Therefore social change gives them a
different social content. There is a loss of mutual
identification. Apart from this, even within the
generation there is confusion. And because of the
conflicting goals, parents become inconsistent and
confused in their own minds about socialising their
children.
In modern societies,
education of youth is largely in hands of specialised
agencies that give the younger generation advanced ideas.
This advancement in training also widens the intellectual
gap between the parent and the child.
Another factor that adds
to the conflicting situation is the paradoxical
combination of concentration and dispersion within the
family. Being small, the family unit gives rise to
"one feeling" and since all the pursuits take
place outside the family and home, it gives rise to
dispersion of activities.
In the present day
achievement-oriented societies, the emphasis is on
individual initiative and vertical mobility results in
the adolescent taking a decision on his future
occupation. He has to choose from a panorama of
occupations, which are full of uncertainties and
competition. The youth being idealistic is unaware of
facts and since the parents too are not very clear about
these, they try to evaluate future possibilities
differently, resulting in clash of interests. Further
more when parents try to fulfil their own dreams and
ambitions by forcing the child to follow their goals and
roles conflict between the two further increases.
The youth of every era
has regarded the old as out-of-date, old-fashioned,
conservative and lacking in initiative. On the contrary,
the older generation has felt the young as wanting in
understanding and respect.
The very objectives,
aspirations and pursuits of the older and younger
generation are sometimes diametrically opposed to each
other. It is the end that has taken precedence over the
means. The material pursuits and comforts, earned or
unearned, are fervidly and fiercely sought. Even music
with throbbing rhythm is a craze with the younger
generation. They dont have patience with sublime
music or melody. Jabber , babble, slang and colloquialism
is in vogue because the young are in a hurry and
dont have the patience to waste time on
the finer nuances of the language. The mood and temper of
the generation is manifestly different.
In the ultimate analysis
we can deduce that prejudices and stereotypes hinder our
personal development and separate us from others. We need
to look earnestly and honestly at ourselves and try to
discard these faults. Then and only then we can
communicate effectively regardless of age and background.

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