The Tribune - Spectrum

Sunday, March 5, 2000

Learn to seek contentment

THIS refers to Taru Bahl’s article "Seeking contentment" (Feb. 20). Contentment is a perfect condition of life in which no aid or support is needed. It is really true that a person can never be fully contented. When his one desire gets fulfilled another one crops up. What prevents us from being contented is that most of us have been bitten by the "just-a-little more" bug leading to a situation where needs are never met, and desires are never satisfied. But it does not mean that one should give up ambition and hardwork. In fact hardwork will lead us to an enjoyable life. Contentment often also comes with the knowledge that one is cared for and loved.



Contentment is a rarity in the modern stressful life as pleasure and pain are interwoven in the web of life. All of us have anxities and worries, but why exaggerate them and underestimate numerous blessings which we enjoy. Those whom you regard happier than yourself have their own troubles.

  Contentment means to be satisfied with one’s lot, and patience is golden. A contented mind is a continuous feast says a proverb. Most of our miseries are imaginary. If we go on brood over our troubles, we make ourselves miserable, but if we look to the good things we have we are happy. How beautifully, the poet has put it "If you weep, your troubles heap; if you laugh, your troubles are off". Indeed it is not the position but the disposition that makes us happy or sad. George Kaitholil, in his well-known book "Make Patience your Target" enumerates the qualities of a contented man

The patient man is tolerant, lenient, forbearing, long-suffering, gentle, kindly, unhurried, persistent persevering, unremitting, enduring, submissive, unagitated, unperturbed, not grumpy, not upset, unruffled, serene, composed, tranquil. Be patient and patience will carry you through every if ill. Some one said "Show me a thoroughly content and I shall show you a thoroughly uselessman. This is not the right view. Contentment does not take away all ambition from us, it induces us to work harder and aim higher.


A better tomorrow

This refers to the article "Hoping for a better tomorrow" (Feb 20) by Sudershan Singh, which describes the problems of today’s youth. It is true that privatisation of education, reservation of seats in institutions, political interference, unfair selection as unemployment dissatisfaction in the youth. They feel insecure in society. It is unfortunate that even after 52 years of independence, our government has not solved the problem of unemployment. Every year government launches special schemes for the welfare of youth, but because of corruption and political interference such schemes could not be implemented properly. Today’s youth are struggling for their rights and often take to violence. At school and college level, schemes should be started, right from the beginning to mould the attitude of the youth, so that they can think in a positive way towards themselves and can give a right shape to their lives.

In western countries, where youth behaviour, attitude, interest and hobbies, likes and dislikes, mental aptitude and capability are studied right from the birth, the child is brought up so as to develop its abilities to the full. We must take a cue from them and set up a career guidance cell at school and college level.


Angry drivers

This has reference to the article ‘Driver Ko Gussa Kyon Aata Hai’ by Mohinder Singh (Feb 14). This writer has analysed various factors which make the drivers lose their cool.

In advanced countries where there are affective traffic agencies to regulate traffic and enforce traffic laws even there drivers keep harassing other drivers. But in our country the government not only has failed to do anything regarding improving the roads or disciplining drivers. The traffic police are more eager to accept bribes than punishing the defaulters. As such there is a ‘jungle raj’ on our roads making drivers miserable. We read about dozens of innocents being crushed to death for no fault of theirs, but due to the reckless and negligent driving. Many such defaulters are later found to be drunk or driving a vehicle already unfit for driving. These ‘merchants of death’ are booked under Sec. 304A and 279 etc, of the IPC. They are released on bail, and whenever some one is punished he is awarded with a six-month or one year sentence. This is the major reason that drivers violate traffic rules. The government must amend the IPC to include another section to deal with such killers.