The Tribune - Spectrum

Sunday, May 28, 2000

Love that lasts forever

THIS refers to Taru Bahl’s article "Making love last forever" (May 7). It is a proven fact that the isolated, aloof and unloved persons often run the risk of dying prematurely. Love, caring and intimacy have great healing powers. Loneliness leads to unhappiness, suffering, disease and early death. We are well aware of the fact that all love stories do not have a happy ending. Even then we can at least try to make our love last forever. Love in relationships is a continuous purifying process. We should endeavour to forge healthy loving relations with our relatives, friends, colleagues and neighbours.

One should not impose one’s ideas and thoughts on the other. Loving comes naturally in healthy and selfless love. True love respects the other person’s individuality.

A genuine lover is gentle, caring and compassionate. His main aim is to love truly and be loving for ever. Genuine and truly loving relationships can last forever.




The writer has aptly reiterated the truth that love is capable of making or breaking people, of washing them towards the shores of death or bringing them back towards life. Its healing touch is miraculous. Its reconstructive prowers is astounding.

All the same, it is true that love requires some breathing space in which the other person’s soul can bloom freely and not feel stifled or suppressed. Crushing the other person’s individuality and identity with possessiveness creates dissatisfaction which progresses to resentment.

Being left alone periodically provides sustenance to love. True love has to be understanding, considerate, and forgiving. It does not wound or damage other’s ego and self worth. On the contrary, it works as a healing agent for injured feelings. It stands as a protective shield to our usually brittle and tottering self-worth. Just look at the glowing faces of the people who are loved dearly! Age cannot wither the sparkle in their eyes. Love possesses the magical properties to make us feel special, even though we might be very ordinary.


K.M. Munshi

This refers to the write-up on K.M. Munshi in the Great Minds column (May 7) by Kuldip Dhiman. Besides being a politicians and educationist, K.M. Munshi was also an environmentalist. He initiated the Van Mahotsav in 1950, when he was Union Minister of Agriculture and Food, to increase the area under forest cover. Since the Van Mahotsav a week long festival of tree plantation is organised every year in the month of July all across the country and lakhs of trees are planted. Approximately 20 crore saplings have been planted in the country under this programme so far. According to Munshi, "Tree means water, water means bread, bread means life". It is inspiring to note that he understood the importance of tree plantation nearly half century back.

New Delhi

Only one

This is with reference to Mohinder Singh’s article "Only one" (May 7). It is a fact that an only child enjoys special privileges and gets more parental attention. Moreover, in order to address the population problem, it is advisable to restrict one’s family to only one child. However, being an only child can be a lonely experience. Hence, it might be a good idea for parents to have one child of their own and adopt a second child. This seems difficult but is certainly not impossible.



Deprived of siblings, the only child is a born autocrat. Everything is done as per the whims and fancy of the only child. Throwing tantrums at the drop of hat is the most potent weapon in his or her armoury. Getting things done without effort or struggle, makes the only child easy-going and he starts taking things for granted. He does not learn the lessons of cooperation and sharing. Even as an adult such a child brookes no interference in his or her personal affairs — a fact that an adversely impact his interpersonal relations.