|Saturday, January 11, 2003||
WE all have a tendency to indulge in gossip. Studies disclose that gossiping releases our pent-up emotions and reduces our tensions.
Couples who enjoy gossiping are usually happier because this idle activity shifts their attention from self-centred problems. Happiness being contagious makes their whole family happy.
A research conducted in the USA has shown that gossiping can make us more democratic. It is an instrument of free expression. While gossiping, we communicate with a free mind.
Gossiping helps us shift
our interest to others. When we gossip, we seldom discuss our own
problems. We generally discuss another person who is not present.
Doing so, we laugh away our own cares. Sometimes we express sympathy
for a person involved in a particular problem. And we also come up
with solutions and remedies for his problems. More happiness flows
into our lives when we help and guide a person thus discussed.
But, beware of the dangerous aspect of gossiping! Gossiping can be harmful if you become vindictive. When you start backbiting, you start criticising others for nothing. When you gossip with an ill-will, it makes you tense. Tension naturally comes to you when you try to make others tense.
Why do people backbite? Simply out of hatred, fear, envy and greed, people pass derogatory remarks about others. The person making insulting remarks thinks his listener will keep the talk a secret, but gossiping travels faster than the wind! And still faster when the gossiping is slanderous!
We all gossip at one time
or the other. After every gossiping session, the gossipmongers feel
light and relaxed. Malicious gossiping alone makes us uptight and
envious of others.