Saturday, April 12, 2003
M A I L  B O X


No matter what, applause is what they got

THIS refers to Ashwini Bhatnagarís article "No matter what, applause is what they got" (March 29). Although India disappointed hundreds of cricket lovers by losing to Australia in the finals of the World Cup, yet they got a big round of applause, home and abroadz, by doing exceedingly well in the entire competition. True, no team plays for an applause nowadays. It is victory that matters and the Indians faltered at the last hurdled. Even then they have done the nation proud.

Anyway there should not be any room for despondency. Rather, India can hold their head high as they have been defeated but not disgraced. After their disastrous showing in New Zealand, they had been written off even before a single ball was bowled in the World Cup. It goes to their credit that they proved the cynics wrong by playing the final which no one dreamt they would play.

Tarsem S. Bumrah, Batala

 

Swami Dayanand

I read with pleasure "Swami Dayanand and astrology" by Khushwant Singh (March 15). Swami Dayanand was an epitome of modernity. He was much ahead of his countemporaries. He talked against castism, sati and child marriage. He strongly advocated womenís education and social reforms at the grass-roots-level. He also condemned the idea of janma patri and kundli and said that every day was auspicious.

Sushama Sharma, Bhiwani

Stress and marriage

This refers to V.K. Kapoorís "Survive stress to sustain marriage" (March 22). Gender equality, on which all healthy man-woman relations should be based, can neither be measured in material terms nor can it be ensured just by the male partner. It is a psycho-social experience, nurtured and enjoyed mutually by both man and woman. The problem with our social set-up is that the so-called liberated women nurse very high and unrealistic expectations from their partners, without pay heed to harsh realities.

A sympathetic mutual understanding and a natural sense of cooperation, where oneís personal ego has no place, are the key factors to a stress-free and happy married life.

Ved Guliani, Hisar

Extra-marital affairs

Apropos of the write-up, "Who doesnít like a bit on the side?" (March 1). Marriage is an institution where one hopes to find love in a socially acceptable way. However, expecting married life to be smooth sailing is a bit too much to ask for. Extra-marital affairs continue to serve as an outlet for the failures and frustrations of married life. When a partner is constantly nagged and criticised for every word or deed, it is natural for him or her to slip away to a place where he or she is warmly received. Extra-marital affairs donít necessarily imply physical relations. These may include a sharing of personal problems, likes or dislikes etc. It should be remembered that when a husband sins, the wife is never innocent, and vice versa.

Anup K. Gakkhar, Jalandhar

Sensual pleasures

This refers to "Why deny ourselves sensual pleasures?" by Khushwant Singh (March 15). It is, indeed, senseless to deny oneself pleasures on religious grounds. Ananda, or spiritual ecstasy, is different from sensual pleasures. One may say it is of better quality than the latter, but the importance of the latter cannot be denied. Pleasures can be denied to oneself only on grounds of health or their impact on the sensibilities of the society.

Chaman Lal Korpal, Amritsar