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Lessons to learn from Gurgaon tragedy

The Gurgaon shooting incident needs to be deplored unequivocally. The victim was a big bully and the culprits showed abnormal behaviour. We blindly ape the West. The two cultures are so dissimilar that these can never be congruous.

The inflow of easy money brings with it a reckless social life. People pay scant thought to its repercussions on their children. Parents spend very little or no time with their children. They compensate this by giving their kids expensive clothes, cell phones, toys, CDs, I-pods and cars not realising that easy access to unaffordable materialistic things will make them arrogant and they would show aggression towards the children of lesser gods. Thus, they tend to become violent at the behest of their parents.

The child primarily learns everything at home. The parents will have to shoulder the responsibility of parenting. Keeping live ammunition at home, that too, in the children’s easy reach, is unpardonable. Parents should check the reckless use of cell phones, Internet and satellite TV by children. There is need for constant observation of the child behaviour. Seek professional advice if you can’t. We must set our own house in order rather than blaming other’s children or society at large.

Col B.K. GOPAL (retd),Panchkula


 

II

On reading the news item “School boys gun down classmate in Gurgaon” (Dec 12), it can be safely concluded that there is a total lack of moral education in the educational institutions. The authentic holy literature must be compulsorily introduced for study in these institutions. The teachers should teach the tenets of the holy books that may create a profound impact on the minds of the children.

If teachers and parents teach our children the values, principles and virtues, there will be no scope for them to indulge in incidents like the one in Gurgaon.

C.P. SAPRA, Chandigarh

III

The editorial “Gun in school bag” (Dec 13) aptly highlighted the grim reality in present-day society. The shooting incident has shocked the nation. Extreme anger and violence that remain latent in young minds are an outcome of deep malaise in today’s society. Darwin’s theory rightly proves what is happening in society — Struggle for existence and survival of the fittest.

But why blame hormonal imbalance in growing bodies alone? The environment — social, cultural and emotional — is equally responsible for the malady. Such heinous crimes by teenagers are the outcome of stress and frustration of a modern and highly competitive world: nuclear families, busy and ambitious parents, lack of good teachers and ideal role models, modern curriculum lacking in moral education, physical exercise and so on.

Above all, some teenagers are always hooked to TV, cinema, Internet and even drugs. These drawbacks cannot be camouflaged with hormonal changes. We the adults should understand the alarming signals and plan remedial measures before it is too late.

ANITA KATARIA, DAV Public School, Patiala

IV

The tragic shooting in a Gurgaon school is both shocking and alarming. Had the parents, the school authorities and the teachers been more vigilant, the incident would not have taken place.

Surely, there was lack of counselling on the part of the teachers. The deceased was bullying the students and yet he was not handled tactfully. The parents too are responsible for the tragedy. The loaded gun should not have been kept within the easy reach of the children.

It seems there was no effective rapport between the parents and the child. The children want their parents’ presence, interaction and affection much more than presents or gifts. The parents should spend more time with their children to ease their burdened mind. To prevent such incidents in the future, the parents, the teachers and the school authorities should work in unison.

GIAN CHAND VERMA, Yamunanagar

V

The editorial “Gun in school bag” was an eye-opener. The Gurgaon incident has raised many disturbing questions for our society. The murder of his classmate by a teenager is shocking. More shocking is that the boy showed no remorse for such a crime.

Both parents and teachers are equally responsible for such tragedies. The teachers’ only aim is to complete the syllabus; they evince little interest in what the students should do outside the classrooms.

Materialistic parents who are after money have no time to watch what their children are doing and whom they meet. Parents, schools authorities and teachers must wake up so that we can nip this alarming trend in the bud.

KULWANT RIKHI, Patran (Patiala)

Concern for the aged

A J. PHILIP’s candid response to the problem of welfare of the aged through the recently enacted Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act is an eye-opener (December 18). By citing live stories from the modern industrial society, the writer shows that mere enactment of provisions obligating children to support their aged parents under the threat of sanction, with both jail term and fine, is merely a mirage.

It is no substitute for the institutionalised social security measure through the instrumentality of the state. That alone would make the aged economically independent and save them from all anticipated humiliation and degradation at the hands of their children.

More blissfully, such an economic independence, in turn, shall germinate into a healthy bond of interdependence with those very grown up children who considered their aged parents mercifully burdensome.

Dr VIRENDRA KUMAR, Chandigarh


 


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