Hubby dear, however, regards these
proposals with tired looks, which say: "grow up" but which I
read as "grow old". I once tried frightening him out of middle
age by threatening to leave for Kaza or Keylong on my own but my bluster
was met with a guffaw that set the firebrand in me all aglow.
"Explain
yourself," I dared him, "Do you think we women are not up to
it?" But he laughed louder still before letting out, "The
first thing you will miss is the loo". Sure enough, there in lay
the rub.
Unless you’re a man
(in which case the roadside would serve just as well), travelling long
distance will occasionally put you in need of a rest room along the way.
But where are these conveniences? Not on the way to distant Sarchu,
surely.
Come to think of it,
you don’t find any on the way to more accessible places like Kasauli
or Renuka either. Forget Himachal Pradesh, right here in the National
Capital, women visitors to Qutab Minar or Purana Qila have to look extra
hard to find a utility.
Apparently, the tourism
machinery in the country does not set much store by modesty or women’s
comfort. The systemic philosophy seems to be that all tourists are men
while female visitors constitute the inferior sort of baggage.
Therefore, so long as you have men — the real ‘clients’ —
satisfied, business will keep flowing.
No wonder then, apart
from the top-notch hotels which receive a sizeable number of powerful,
independent women, the other establishments do nothing to make life
easier for female visitors.
The absence of public
toilets along the way is in fact a minor inconvenience if you consider
the veritable ‘hazards’ a woman traveller must put up with. Can a
lone woman visitor feel at ease sitting down to dinner at one of our
roadside dhabas? How about her checking into a shady hotel, all
alone?
Yet, all it takes to
make even a rundown place seem respectable is a little thought. A small
all-male setup in a backstreet may seem disreputable but put a woman at
the reception, a couple of them in the restaurant and some more in the
service staff and you have a place where a woman will step in with few
apprehensions.
Ultimately, it is the
entrepreneur who gains the most by making his establishment
woman-friendly. A crude setup in the most scenic place will draw a few
adventures — mostly young bachelors — but till the time the place
can recommend itself to women, families and the big money won’t come.
Nor will the girls. Jill, Hannah,
Rebecca, Julie and I included!.
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