It is of paramount importance—and that’s probably the crux
of good parenting—that children should grow up feeling good
about themselves. A self-assured child already has a headstart
in life and the maturity with which a child would deal with
situations as an adult has its basis in the formative years.
Temper tantrums, a
child’s fears, homework, fear of school, friends and hobbies,
among other things, have been discussed in the book, which is a
psychological treatise on parent-child relationship rather than
a handbook on off-hand tips on parenting.
that yelling at children is counter-productive, but at the same
time he doesn’t undermine the importance of saying
"no." They must be allowed to make independent
decisions and undue restrictions should not be imposed on them.
He also warns that ridiculing a child in front of his/her
friends could have a debilitating effect on the child.
He suggests a
parent equate "energy" (reaction) to money. For
instance, if a child spills a glass of milk by mistake, you
shouldn’t shout for even you too can make that mistake.
However, if it was deliberate, think of the cost, which is
negligible. The only issue worth dealing with here is the
indiscipline of the child, in which case a warning should
The contents under
"Every child is Unique," "Good Parents
Communicate" and "Smart Parenting" are especially
informative and present an insight into the world of children
Quoting tanner, he
says it is possible to predict the adult height of a child with
an error of plus/minus 4 cm by doubling the height of a child at
two years or by multiplying the height at three years with 1.87.
forever, but the author, understandably so, restricts his advice
to dealing with adolescents and under.
Parents must work
towards providing a child with a strong value system, emotional
stability and an unbiased perspective. Jim Bishop’s quote—"Raising
a child is very much like building a skyscraper. If the first
few storeys are out of line, no one will notice. But when the
building is 18 or 20 storey high, everyone will see that it
tilts."—is a clear indicator of what slack parenting can