The authors, an Australian
husband and wife team, do emphasise that biological facts
should not be allowed to impinge on questions of social
equality. However, many of the assertions are close to gender
drive women crazy, while men sleep.
A woman is
four to six times more likely to touch another woman in a
social conversation than a man would another man.
rule of talking to a man: Keep it simple! Give him only one
thing at a time to think about.
Women do not
have good spatial skills because they evolved chasing little
else besides men.
To prove his
love for her, he climbed the highest mountain, swam the
deepest ocean and crossed the widest desert. But she left
him-he was never home.
If you are
dealing with an upset woman, donít offer solutions or
invalidate her feelings-just show her you are listening.
it good side. It teaches you loyalty, forbearance, tolerance,
self-restraint and other valuable qualities you would not need
if you stayed single.
Much of what
one reads is ego-bruising, especially for the males. Tests
show that women rate 3 per cent higher in general intelligence
than men. Ouch!
what is said, it is a bit too much to agree with the authorís
statement that we are who we are because of our hormones. We
all are the result of our chemistry."
At the same
time, there is no doubt that despite the best intention of
equal opportunity employers, boys stilt stubbornly go to jobs
with a mechanical and spatial bias and girls seem compelled to
seek jobs involving human interaction.
truth in what they say, though one need not get carried away
by the assertions in the book, we are what we are to a large
extent because of our mind asserting its will and our
circumstances, and none of us would fit into typical
stereotypes, we are all unique admixtures of various kinds.
The authors do give an
interesting bibliography at the end, but it would have been
really nice to have footnotes so that one could check up on
various assertions, because the book cannot really be mistaken
for a scholarly work. Still, it is pop psychology and has a
wide audience, as it being a best-seller has proved.