Pressure to excel fuels performance anxiety in school kids, warn experts

Amid growing academic expectations and packed schedules, children are facing a silent but serious challenge — performance anxiety. Once considered an issue prevalent among older students, child psychologists now report a surge in cases among children as young as six.

“Parents want their children to excel in every field — academics, sports, arts — but the constant pressure is leading to anxiety, low self-esteem and even withdrawal,” says Ritu Kapoor, a Ludhiana-based child counsellor. “Performance anxiety is no longer rare. It’s becoming common, even in primary schoolchildren.” Kapoor explains that the roots of this anxiety lie not just in external expectations, but in the child’s internal fear of failure. “With the right guidance and a positive environment, children can overcome this. Small exercises, positive reinforcement and self-motivation techniques help build confidence,” she adds.

Take the case of 11-year-old Aarav (name changed), a bright student who suddenly began refusing to attend school. “He was terrified of not scoring full marks in math,” says his mother, Meenakshi. “We thought we were encouraging him, but we realised we were unknowingly adding pressure. Therapy helped us understand his emotional needs.”

Another student, 14-year-old Simran, began experiencing panic attacks before dance competitions. “I love dancing, but I started fearing judgment. I felt I had to be perfect every time,” she shares. With counselling and support from her school, Simran now performs with joy, not fear. Parents are learning to adapt. “We’ve stopped comparing our son to others,” says Rajesh, father of a Class VII student. “Now we focus on effort, not just results. His confidence has improved.”

Clinical psychologist, Deepti who visits a many private schools for counselling urged schools and families to prioritise emotional well-being. “Children thrive in safe, supportive spaces,” she said, adding, “We must listen more, push less.”