Matrimonial knot can be a big deal
Aditi Garg
Marriages are made in heaven but making them work on earth needs divine intervention. Why is it that marriages all around are falling apart? The question has been raised several times but never an answer has been found. Problems exist because of the inability to let go of one’s ego and appreciate other’s point of view. In a bid to change the other person and subsequent failure in doing so, we create and magnify our problems. While marriage is a sacred bond, couples fail to address it as one and think of it as a competition where only one can be the winner.
JL Dhar has worked for four decades in government and industrial sectors and now runs a consultancy for industrial relations. Author of four books and various papers and articles, it is his long and happy married life that gives him the expertise in a topic as sensitive as marriage. Holy Wedlock Unholy Deadlock is a book that tackles the demon of tensions in a marriage head-on, without beating about the bush. In a simple, lucid and deft manner, the book deals with many aspects of marriage.
Through Ragini and Raghav, we can identify with the many ups and downs that every marriage faces. The author has written about circumstances and situations that are not imaginary but very real. Using anecdotes and popular stories to explain the point further, he conveys the message effectively. We see around us how a beautiful relationship begins to wither away within some months of marriage. And it is through Rosy and Dinesh that he shows us what marriage should be and how couples should conduct themselves to find bliss in their marriage. There are temptations to stray, familial pressures, unrealistic expectations and many other problems that get compounded when these are not dealt with in the right manner. But with some patience, you can overcome these.
The book is insightful and offers advice that can be put into practice. When you are at your lowest in your relationship, it may be able to guide you through the turmoil like a well-intentioned friend.
