Don’t be overprotective, impatient & harsh with kids

The children today are becoming restless and stubborn owing to excessive pampering by parents. They are overtly dependent on technology, mainly cell phones and lack physical activity. It hinders their growth by not letting out extra energy, which is present in their age. Moreover, parents are using materialistic things as a substitute for love and affection, which is necessary for proper emotional and mental growth of children. Sometimes, parents are over protective. They do not let themselves or teachers correct the aggressive behaviour, which may obstruct child’s overall growth. Thus, the fault lies in the upbringing of children. The mind of a child is like clay and we can mould it to make him/her a good, happy and law abiding citizen in the years to come.

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Deepak Nagpal

Kids learn all habits, behaviour from parents

Anybody’s aggressive behaviour can cause physical or emotional harm to others. It may be verbal or physical abuse. Aggressiveness can also damage public property. Children are becoming aggressive day by day. They use abusive language at public places. They learn all habits either good or bad from their parents at home or from friends in school and colleges. If they hear parents use derogatory language they also follow in their steps. Although there is no proper way of checking aggressiveness in children, yet appropriate steps can help in inculcating good habits among them. If children are aggressive at public place then an elder person can correct them there and then.

Manpriya Kaur 

Highlight differences between right and wrong

Children are beautiful and sensitive creatures of God. They adapt by watching others. Aggressive behaviour of children is common these days. They become violent due to many reasons. Some mimic what they see at home or their neighbours. Some go through trauma or have a medical reason. But who is responsible for their aggressive behaviour?  We ourselves are responsible for such acts of children. Parents should stop them when they show violent tendencies in childhood. We should tell them what is right and what is wrong. Students spend maximum time in school. So, it is duty of both parents and teachers to tell children differences between good and bad behaviour, besides harms of violence.  Parents have to handle their children calmly and without giving them beating. Teachers can take special classes for students to apprise them how to keep calm and shun violence. 

Surekha Mahajan

Give a patient hearing to your child

We live in society that has a demanding and judgmental attitude towards parents and children. The child-rearing tradition that has been handed down to us places us against our children when their behaviour is not convenient for others. We should know situations in which children become aggressive. It’s like being with the whole family at dinner, birthday party or any such occasion. Children can be aggressive with their mother, who is under stress, due to less help available to her in daily house chores. Sometimes at the end of an outing, trip to park or after finishing game with friends, a child becomes aggressive. So, when child bursts out his/her anger, slow down the action and listen. Be patient and calm with child. Get down to eye level with your child, put your arm around him/her and say gently what you want him not to do and listen to his tantrums. It’s respectful, the limit is good one and he will recover his equilibrium as quickly as he can. Laughter relieves children’s tension, allows them to feel more and more connected to you. Some studies have found correlation between violent video games and violent behaviour, besides content in films or songs children see or listen. Parents should keep a check on use of social media by children and watching television. Place confidence in your children to feel connected. Bridge any communication gap between you and your child. Teenagers don’t always like to talk about how life is going on. Only positive parenting can help in children to shun aggressive behaviour.

Dr Jasdeep Kaur

Keep watch on day to day activities of wards

Children displaying aggressive behaviour at public places in the city must be checked using all means and resources. The first responsibility lies on parents, who must keep a watch on the day to day behaviour and activities of their wards. It starts at home when they are pampered, which results in aggressiveness in the public. Mothers can play a big role. The responsibility of teachers in schools towards children is equally important. They can mend aggressive behaviour of children. Teachers must teach good values of life to children. Schools must arrange special lectures by important and meaningful personalities to remind students of good values urging them to become fine citizens. Lenient treatment under the law to children also adds to aggressive tendencies. Children must be punished when caught in violent acts in the open. Both the police and the general public can play positive role in this matter. Once a child is caught for such an offence, it must be reported both to his/her parents and the school. The school authorities can isolate such children to make them realise their aggressiveness.

Dr G Dev

We all are responsible for present situation

Child is an inseparable part of society and so is the childhood. Behaviour of parents, relatives, teachers and surroundings affects their behavior too. Aggressiveness especially amongst children and adolescents at public places often results in devastating effects. We all are responsible for it. Without the backing and hidden consent of parents, children cannot exhibit anger. We often find parents supporting such behaviour of their children at schools, colleges and other public places. General intolerance, stress and discontentment in society give a push to such odd behavior. Behavioral studies are not the part of our education. Solution to the problem lies in better parenting and social responsiveness. Patience, humbleness, politeness and financial contentment amongst parents and the constant transition of such values can rid the next generation of such vices. The idea to keep the ward always in comfort zone must be dispensed by parents. Children must be taught to face hard realities of the life. Always arguing in child’s favour is in fact the biggest obstacle in their behavioral growth and personality building. Imbibing ethical and moral values in children must start from home.

Brish  Bhan  Ghaloti  

Help children to overcome anxiety

The future of the nation depends upon children. The right upbringing and good education can make children responsible citizens. In the fast changing world of information and technology children are becoming aggressive not only at homes but at public places too. The reason behind their aggression can be unmet demands, loneliness, things failing to materialise, lagging behind in competition and many more. Children must be taught to wait for the things to happen, how to care for others, remain calm and peaceful. Parents should help them overcome anxiety. Special teaching through games and movies can help in controlling aggressive behaviour. During free period in schools and colleges children must be kept busy in different activities. Teachers and parents must listen to children and help them if they are facing problem at any stage. If children demand things, which are beyond reach of parents, then they must be dealt with patience. Value-based lessons must be taught to students in educational institutions. Children must be encouraged for their small and big achievements. They must be free to choose their own career. We as elders should not shout at children when they are aggressive. Parents must identify the cause of their anger if it recurs frequently.

Dr Mohd Saleem Farooqui 

Reduce the parents-child communication gap

The issue of violent behaviour of children at public places has become a topic of discussion. An important reason behind this is widening communication gap between parents and children. As life has become busy, parents are not spending enough time with their kids. Neither are children able to express themselves nor parents realise feelings of their wards. Technology is easily accessible to children. As children don’t go out to play digital media has become source of their entertainment, whose content is sometimes not appropriate for them. The best solution to check aggressiveness for parents is to keep all channels open with their children. They should understand aspirations of their child. If they find anything wrong they shouldn’t hesitate in seeing a counsellor. That old Indian mentality needs to change.

Karan Chopra

Make child understand others’ perspective

The issue of aggressive behaviour among children is a growing concern for all of us. Over the long term, it can significantly impede perpetrators potential for development. Reasons that may influence child’s life and perpetuate aggressive behaviour, include exposure to violence at home, parenting practices, social support, emotional problems and socio-demographic factors. Studies indicate that children are becoming more aggressive due to regular exposure to the visual media such as films, television and video games. It is a means for conflict resolution and encourages them to think that it’s okay to resort to violent means when they feel threatened. Developing appropriate level of self-control among children is the first and foremost step to check aggression. Schools and community agencies can help children gain self control. Programmes at regular intervals involving parents and other family members can help children learn how to negotiate and settle differences without major arguments. Parents should enhance their parenting skills. Talk openly with your child and help him/her express feelings. Encourage an aggressive child to understand others perspective, including those whom he/she has hurt and who he/she perceives have wronged him/her. Small steps can make a difference and lead parents and their wards toward a positive outcome.

Ravi Chander Garg

Need of the hour is healthy discussion 

Nowadays, children don’t have patience. Young kids are becoming aggressive day by day. Sometimes they take wrong steps, which makes them and their families suffer. This is a serious problem. Children spend their maximum time in schools with teachers and classmates. School is like a second family to them. The main focus of schools must be on educating students about moral values and good behaviour. There should be proper communication between children and parents. Lack of discussion may lead to small misunderstanding, which can become big issue and affect the family adversely. We as parents should improve our habits and behaviour as children learn many things from us and their surroundings. Both parents and schools share the responsibility to teach children ethical values. Parents should keep a check on social media content, which their children watch. Elders should also behave properly in front of children. Parents must reward children for their achievements, whether big or small. 

Kalpna Maurya