Shun the negative influence

D. C. Sharma

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Have you ever felt completely drained after talking to someone at workplace and have you ever had such times when after having a conversation with someone you felt fully energised to do your best? The first person in this case was an energy sucker, while the second one was an energy enhancer. Remember, the more occasions you get to share things with the latter the best it is for your career. But you must do your best to keep yourself safe from the energy- sucking co-workers. Such ‘energy thieves’ are there at almost every workplace but you can keep yourself safe from them and keep your energy levels intact. Here is how you can do it:

• The first and foremost thing to keep in mind is that the energy suckers are experts in enticing their ‘prey’ at the first sight. They prepare the ground and begin by creating a pleasant situation for their prey. So it is not easy to spot an energy sucker righ away and by the time one realises it, one is completely in the grip of these negative elements. The easiest way to spot an energy sucker is to realise that they are egoists. Such a person not only keeps boasting of his/her own deeds in a sweet tone , but also tries to grab your attention to say what he/she wants to convey, and ultimately succeeds leaving you sapped, sucking the best of your stamina and vigour.
• Always bear in mind that talking of negative things even when you are doing your best is a habit with an energy sucker. In one way or the other such a person carefully tries to poison your mind against your superiors even when they have full faith and confidence in you. But once you fall in the trap of such an energy sucker, you start doing things against your boss as if it was all due to your own best logical thinking.
• When confronted with such an energy sucker take a few deep breaths Your gut reaction can guide you time and again to stay true and close to your purpose and aim in life. Remember, the energy sucker neither has a conscience nor will he allow you to have your own. So the sooner you avoid such energy suckers, the best it will be.
• Try developing the habit of intention-less listening in case you frequently come across energy suckers. The energy sucker simply wants to transfer his negativity or concerns to you. So don’t get too involved in the conversation.
• Never ever try to ask any question if you really want to keep yourself safe from an energy sucker. Asking even a small question will embolden tthis personto involve you in his talk.
• Does it mean that you have to be scared of an energy sucker? Certainly not! But what can’t be cured has to be endured. Suppose the energy sucker is your boss, and there is no way that you can avoid him easily. Naturally, you have to listen to him/her. But listen intently only to what relates to business and ignore what is irrelevant and superfluous.

— The writer is a Kangra- based psychologist and career expert