The pulse of a relationship

Gurnaaz Kaur

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When these two doctors met, love blossomed. Dr Shekhar Singal is an orthopedist and is working as an associate profession in the Department of Orthopedics at DMC, Ludhiana. Dr Vidushi Singal is a dermatologist and has her own clinic in Sarabha Nagar. Married for 10 years now, they have two sons and a life full of happy experiences.

As the love story begins

Shekhar: It began 12 years ago when we were both doing our post-graduation in DMC.

Vidushi: It was over a knee-replacement patient.

Getting hitched

Shekhar: I think I was in love when I could speak to her the whole night then work the whole day and still want to speak to her at night again.

Vidushi: For me it was an instant decision. I just knew it’s him.

Changes that followed

Shekhar: It’s taken a roller-coaster style, 360° turn.

Vidushi: Life has changed completely. We automatically start thinking like a couple, we want to share everything.

Living together is

Shekhar: Oh it’s wonderful!

Vidushi: It is wonderful. To have someone there for you all the time is great.

When there is time

Shekhar: We love the time we spend together as a family, with our kids.

Vidushi: He likes to teach me about life.

Fun time means

Shekhar: In the pre-corona era, we loved taking vacations together, going for long drives.

Vidushi: Now we love watching TV, listening to music, going for walks together

If I could change

Shekhar: Her quick anger.

Vidushi: I wish he was more communicative.

Annoying stuff

Shekhar: Like I said her quick temper. She loses her cool very quickly.

Vidushi: When he doesn’t answer my texts after a fight.

Couple goals

Shekhar: To bring out the best in each other by being the best versions of ourselves.

Vidushi: To try and always see things from the other’s point of view. To be slow to judge and quick to forgive.

Wow factor

Shekhar: Everything about her.

Vidushi: His smile.

To make a marriage work

Shekhar: Being yourself and having no pretence with each other.

Vidushi: I think complete acceptance of the other person.

Space talk

Shekhar: Giving space in a relationship is extremely important.

Vidushi: It is important to not crowd each other as all of us need a bit of me time. But it’s also important to grow together as a couple.

Solo vacations

Shekhar: Both sleeping in separate rooms or solo vacations are not for us.

Vidushi: Whenever I’m forced to go alone for conferences and all, I hate it so much. So, it’s a no no for me.

Lockdown special

Lockdown, a time to bond

Shekhar: It’s actually been a great time for us. It’s really brought us closer and given us time to understand each other better.

Vidushi: I agree. It’s been amazing.

A new activity together

Both: We took up yoga. The lockdown gave us a wonderful opportunity to look after our own and each other’s health.

A first since marriage

Shekhar: I normally have a very hectic schedule and this is actually the first time we’ve spent so much quality time together.

Vidushi: I’ve discovered so many things about him that I love. This has been a special first-time for us.

After the pandemic is over

Both: We will go on a holiday.